Happy New Year.... Be disciplined, Focused and Dilligent

Every last day of every year happens to be a special one for me first because it shows I have scaled through all the hurdles that year threw at me, another reason is that I came into this world on the last day in the year 1985. Well this write up aint about me but about US. So glad we made it into the New Year, thinking about people that have lost their lives this past year gives those of us still living a wake up call to always remain good at all times.

I wouldn’t want to preach as we all have resolutions (most of us break it in less than a month) but I want us all to have a plan and a commitment that “Our yesterday should be better than today”.

My mind goes down to the gruesome Aluu 4 killings in port Harcourt Nigeria like they were my blood. For those who watched the video that went viral you would remember Lloyd I think who was murmuring something’s and all that came to my mind was that I hoped he was giving his life to Christ. No one truly knows what happened that day but one thing is for sure, Souls of Nigeria future leaders got cut short by Nigerians.

I wish us all we wish the best this year got to offer and only pray that the blessings of Enlargement  in Isaiah 54 is our portion.

Your Date With Destiny By Chris Widener

Destiny. What a powerful word. And the great thing about it? Everyone has one! You have a destiny! Another great thing about destiny? We have a significant role in shaping our own destiny! In essence, you can choose your date with destiny - powerful! Your destiny is the dream that lies within you of your desired and preferred future. And the things that we choose each day are what lead us to that destiny: Our actions, our words, our attitudes, and our relationships. They all add up to develop and shape that date on which we will reach our destiny. Here are some thoughts to think about as you work on shaping your Date with Destiny: The Mental Question: Do you believe that you can achieve a life of abundance? The frank truth is that many people simply do not believe that they can achieve what lies in their heart. Success is for someone else, a better person, or a smarter person. This is not true and is perhaps the greatest obstacle we face on the journey to our destiny. If we are to achieve the abundance in life we must first believe we can, or face our own continual self-sabotage of what a college professor of mine called "stinkin'-thinkin.'" Here is the truth: It doesn't matter what your intelligence is. It doesn't matter what your current resources are. It doesn't matter what you currently earn. It doesn't matter what family you came from. Nothing in your current circumstances matters in whether or not you can achieve your destiny! Nothing! Now, your current state may make it a longer or harder journey than someone else, but the possibility is always there no matter what your current circumstances are. And that is the message we need to continually tell ourselves. "I can do it." Not "I can't do it." Clear vision. Do you have one of your destiny? Here are some questions to determine whether or not your vision is clear. Can you describe it in intricate detail? Can you "see" it? Can you "feel" it? Can you "hear" it? Here are a couple of illustrations. Perhaps you came from a dysfunctional family and your dream is to have great moments with your family. Let's start with a Thanksgiving meal. Can you see each person there? What are they wearing? Are they smiling? What is the conversation? Can you hear the laughter? Can you experience the joy? Can you smell the turkey? Can you see people hugging each other and saying "This was wonderful," as they leave? Another scenario: Your Company. Can you see the large building you are in? Can you see the workers? Can you feel the positive attitude they have as they carry out their work? Can you experience the excitement as you get the quarterly results? Can you see yourself handing out healthy bonuses that bring pleasant surprises to your employees? This is where it begins. A clear vision of your destiny. Consider your resources. Are you aware of the resources you will need in order to set your date with destiny? Do you know how you will go about getting them? What are your natural gifts and talents that you have? How can you best utilize them in achieving your destiny? What is your current level of resources? Money? Time? Emotional health? Help from others such as friends, family, employees or volunteers? What will be your needed future level of resources? And have you developed a plan to achieve this level? The last thing I would encourage you to do is fix a date in the future that you believe you could be living your destiny by. A real date. What this enables you to do is then begin to work backwards in setting goals to move you along the way, providing you with future points to strive for and an evaluation point to reflect upon. Here are the points again: Answer the mental question: Do I really believe? Develop a clear vision. Consider the resources needed. Set a date with destiny. Develop a plan to get there.

Donations Donations Donations; Clarion Call To Make Donations For Health Related Problems.

 

Over the last few months in Nigeria, it has been  challenging interesting and somtimes filled with tears. I thought of what to write this morning and the shouts of my grandma complaining about my health brought out this question in my head :  " do you know your body would react to the things you feed it in the first 25 to 30 years? I was baffled and kept on pondering. I decided to "reject" the devil and say, It is not my portion but is ill health anyones portion?

If I can count, it has been, donate for this person that needs kidney transplant, this person that needs heart operation in india et all that has been in vogue with one of Nigeria's most watched TV station airing this.
Am happy at the response and I too do no matter how small. But ;
HOW WELL DO YOU TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH?
this is not a matter of you being slim or fat. infact, being slim doesnt mean you are healthy, just that you (slim people) are not prone to diseases like we (covering my eyes) fat /plump people.

We need to take into cognaisance of what we take into our body and how well we rest. Of course I am not negating exercise.

Smoking is not good especially in this hot region of ours and if at all u want to smoke (not advising you do) please at the barest minimum. You save your self the embarrassment of asking people to donate for you and also a good health.

Exercise; believe you me it is not fun but you just have to do it. it helps the heart and keeps the body strong.

Fruits : They are hundred % natural and good for the body. as it has toxins that fights against germs.
Rest: no matter how busy you are please endeavour to rest. Even a robot would breakdown after a while. please rest.

Positive thoughts; The holy book talks about worry and how it doesn't solve a thing instead adds to it.

Devastated,Hurt, Confussed? ... You Can Be A Better Person

Ever felt like you are doing you best and yet all you get is complaints? every felt like you are not appreciated no matter how hard you try? Every felt lost knowing you deserve better than what you get?

Well, we all at one point or the other have that feeling where all seems wrong and no matter how hard you try you are not appreciated.
How do you you feel?
Angry, disappointed, heart broken or what? Especially when the person smiles at you but hurts you?
We all have had a taste of that at one point or the other but what is important is YOU.

Yes YOU! you are in control of how you let words and actions of people affect you.

• Yes they are hypocrites but do you also see that they see a greater thing in you that they don't have? so why don't  you listen to their criticism, cry especially if it hurts and work on their criticisms
• Hey its not everything they say you should do is right. You got to think, evaluate your self and follow your dream.
• Run. Yes run but not from this challenge but from the thought that you cant be anything you want to be.
• Pray, really you need to commune with your maker because you need his directions.
• Strategise. The did has been done but guess what? Where their is life their is hope .You can be better, so work hard on it. Strategy would help  you know what steps to take at a particular time to achieve your goal.
• Watch yourself. You now have to take a deliberate move with everything you do cos you know you are "haunted".

It is not  easy but with consistency you can turn that pain to gain.

Letter From A Father To A Son..

 Laughed when I read this and thought I should share;
 
Dear Daughter,

Is Pregnancy A Prerequisite For Marriage?

 
Genevieve(not her real name) suddenly found out she was pregnant. @ 27 you would think she would be happy but she isn't and not even thinking of marriage. Her folks thinks she should own up and marry the 'father' but the Question is; Is pregnancy a prerequisite for marriage?
I am a christian who believes that the bed should be undefiled till that night (must say fulfilling it is another thing) but then why get pregnant if you don't want to marry the man in question? A lot of people have turned sex as a game and see it as a means of exercising while some see it as a way of 'convincing' each other they are in love! He! He! He! I laugh in Greek!
Personally, I feel as an individual, you should be able to know what you want. Why give your body to someone you don't want to risk being with? In the 60's 80's,70's in Africa, it was seen as a taboo for a lady not to be a virgin not to mention her getting pregnant before wedding but now, men believe they must "test and confirm" the woman they want to marry cos they feel most ladies "don't have wombs" forgetting they may also have" low sperm counts" due to the many times they have practiced.
Well now you are pregnant! And u don't think you love the guy enough for marriage. What would you do?

• Marriage?
•  Be a single mother ? or 
• Be a coward and wicked person by aborting?

Below are steps I think you should take:

GUYS ONLY: 5 Foods That Increase Your Sperm Count!

Hallo, you would say am here again. well this isn't my thoughts or research but think it is useful *wink*

Like I said, this is for guys only...married ones o! Ok, women you can read and make sure your husbands feed on these items...







5 FOODS that can increase your sperm count. 
We will be looking at foods you can find anywhere at a very affordable price:

Why Do You Want To Get Married?

Yes Why do you want to get married? Every weekend people get married, everyday, people meet, everyday, people break up and everyday their are divorce cases in the courts.
Don't know about other parts of the world but the sequence in Nigeria  is always

" Go to secondary school------> then go to the University --------> Service Year/ Masters and then Marriage.".
  Please correct me if am wrong but this is one thread of events I observe.
 Young ladies especially those in their final year in the university without boyfriends feel ostracized and  those who have look  for a way to get their boyfriends "engage" them.

• What is the right age to get married?
• What are the things YOU look for in a life patner?
• What is LOVE and is it the ONLY ingredient in marriage?

I recently met an old friend who got married while we were in school and I shuddered. Tola (not her real name) was hot while we were in school and she married this guy cos he was good in bed and now she found out the guy lied about everything else, he had no certificate, no job and all and now my class mate is looking like a hmmm. And she can not divorce him. Yes cos she is a christian. Now taht is another story for another day.
Now before we ladies start complaining about men and their deceit? what about men, cool, calm and collected who marry women and found out that she is only a mannequin. cant cook, clean, is dirty and bedwets... surprised right  what do you want HIM to do...
 Now am not a fan of divorce but I think I will like to share somehing I learnt today about WHY  YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED.

How To Please An African Man...

 African  men are unique from men from other continents some say. well below are some things I found out an African man loves:

#1 Praise him in front of others. When the woman in his life shows her appreciation for him in front of others, he'll be grateful and glad to have someone who supports him and stands by him.

#2 Make him feel secure. While men may have epic egos, they're also extremely fragile when it comes to the matters of the heart. They feel threatened easily, and go into an insecure shell. Avoid making him feel insecure in the right way and he'll love you more.

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man! .... Ladies Can You?

Have you wondered in your heart whether your couple loves you or not? Don’t be afraid, because you are not alone!

A book entitled Act Like A lady, Think Like A Man, by Steve Harvey explains that the love of a man is not same with a love of a woman. As a man, he admits that nothing compared to a woman’s love that is so intens and illogically. A woman will spend her time when her couple needs her, she will accompany and entertain her couple when he is in trouble, and though her friends think that her couple doesn’t deserve with her, she will ignore that. By so many things that have been given in the name of love, a woman expects to receive love or minimum she can receive the same treatment from her mate. And mostly of them are dissapointed. It is not because her mate doesn’t love her but a man has his own way in loving woman.

So what is a man’s love like?

Eight Things Men Lie about

There is almost no woman who does not struggle with at least one complex that is her main concern, but although the complexes and lying about the weight and age is definitely a women's specialty, men also are not exempt from this. Find out why are men ashamed and about which things they mostly lie.

How to know that he is so into you....

As men, we don't like to be too obvious -- but we signal our feelings by the way we treat a woman. Women are more verbal than men and often have an easier time expressing their emotions. Men prefer to show women just how important they are through actions. So how do you know how we're feeling towards you? Pay attention to what we do!

we Value your opinion

If we ask for your opinion and really listen to what you have to say, realize how important you are. We value your intelligence as well as your wonderful curves.

we Do things your way

We'll try to please you by doing things your way-- from letting you choose a "chick flick" when we'd prefer a movie with car chases and explosions, to taking a walk on the beach instead of playing rugby with our pals. If we were alone, we'd choose differently. But we're willing to do it your way in return for time spent with you.

we Ask what you need

We want to satisfy and please you. Being a generous lover means that our first concern is your pleasure. Longer foreplay? Post-coital cuddles? If it makes you happy, it works for us.

we show you off

When we proudly introduce you to our friends, family and co-workers, you can be sure that we're really into you. These are the people we see often and love most. Welcoming you to our inner circle is no small compliment in a relationship.

Lies.... Why would you tell a lie

Lies....
It hurts when you look into my eyes and lie, tell me things that are not as if they are! Hurts that you could do so.... *sobs* My friend was on phone with the love of her life and that was the question? The man in question “loves my friend or so he says but lies about every thing... I tried convincing my friend that am sure he had his reasons but the question that went through my mind is “ WHY DO PEOPLE TELL LIES?”
lies, the act of not telling the TRUTH abi what other definition can I say? When I was younger (not that am that old now oh) if you tell a lie, you would get the beating of your life cos its said that if you lie you would steal, cheat, kill and what other vices and they wont allow that.
How do you know someone is telling a lie?

A New Dawn..... July 26 2012

Today, I remember Steve Harris famous words, " Its not what you don't have that limits you but what you have but don't make use off" today, I decided to take the step in good faith though uncertain where it would lead me to but I know I am not where I used to be. Welcome to something unique, crazy, real and different, we would talk about every thing, discuss everything but one thing is that we would always learn.Welcome to my world....